Jay & Bella...

A Love Story...

Jay: I had previous experience with ENM, Bella did not. Bella was always honest with me, stating that she was not open to the idea whatsoever. This did not stop us from falling in love. I chose a vanilla life with Bella because I did not want any other life more then one with her. After a fun and happy courtship, I proposed and then we exchanged personally written vows. This was just the beginning of our marriage and our writing partnership.

Bella: A mutual interest in reading helped bring us together. It turned out to be just one of many things that we had in common and all our common ground helped to created a strong foundation for our relationship. Ironically, even with so much in common, the one area we found we did not have very much common ground was on the topic of sex.

Jay: I always found Bella sexy and enticing. I enjoy being witness to her sexual pleasure, as much as sharing in it with her. So my kinky thoughts and fantasies never faded. Bella did not consider herself sexy, and admitted being "bad" in bed made her nervous, and so she tended to just avoid the topic but we could both tell this was not satisfying to either one of us.

From Vanilla...

Bella: We talked a lot over the nearly ten years of our monogamous marriage about our sexual interests. We even visited am excellent therapist for a period of time to work on our communication about sex. Then I started to wonder, why am I even drawing these lines between what is good and bad sexually? Is it really wrong to be "bad" anyway? Is something really even "BAD" if we both agreed on it?

Jay: After she convinced me she was sure about her decision, and not feeling pressured in any way into it. We visited Secrets Hideaway, a clothing optional Lifestyle resort. Here, we found a place where reality and fantasy meet. I hoped that Secrets would be a place where we could be free to observe, interact, and explore as much or as little as Bella felt comfortable. Secrets DID NOT DISAPPOINT! By the end of our first amazing visit Bella had decided she was leaving her vanilla life totally behind her.

To Vixen...

Bella: This led me to a couple personal decisions, The first is, "This is MY life, I am an adult, I will decide what is good or bad for me!" The second is, "We are a happy, in love couple, WE will decide what is good or bad for us!" So I declared, first to myself and then to Jay, "If it is bad to have MORE fun, MORE sexual pleasure, and MORE adventure with my happy husband by my side, I choose to be BAD!"

From Kinky...

Jay: During our vanilla years, my love for reading was the place my kinky mind could run free. Even though it was motivated by my love for Bella, choosing to be vanilla did cause some me some frustration as I found himself repressing my own kinky thoughts and desires. So I read a lot, and found that even while many erotic books had good stories, relating to some of the characters was not always easy.

This was because the leading male characters were too often millionaires, mobsters, or even supernatural creatures. (No shade intended towards any kinky, rich, vampire swingers in the mob who are reading this!) The stories I enjoy the most feature ordinary couples who truly love each other, who were doing extraordinary things. I can relate to the characters and can more easily imagine the experiences they are having! Since I personally found these stories hardest to find, I started to write my own.

To Coauthors...

Bella: While reading and writing erotic stories helped him process his kinky thoughts, I know Jay was quietly disappointed that he could not share them with me. Vanilla me was fully aware, and even encouraged, Jay to write the stories, but I was not able to read them, they intimidated me. This totally changed when I embraced my Bad side.

I was willing and eager to read what he had written, I enjoyed seeing his kinky thoughts and ideas! But I also thought we could make it better. So we reviewed every line together and improved the continuity of the story, the authenticity of the characters, and the general readability of the writing. This is how our book: MORE: Hotwives & Husbands - The Adventure Begins was born. We published it on Amazon with the genuine hope that it will be read, enjoyed, and even be helpful and encouraging to both those considering experimenting with their own sexual explorations.

For more about our book visit the More: Hotwives & Husbands (Book) page.

Now Sharing Our "Secret" Place...

Jay: In late 2023, We bought a condo at Secrets Hideaway Resort so we could go back to our happy place whenever they can get away. We are equally excited to be able to contribute to the sexy adventures of other people because the Secrets Resort rents the condo out when we are not there! Bella has named our unit (#207) the "COLOR ME BAD" room. In February 2024 it was remodeled and redecorated to bring the new theme to life. Bes sure to check out the photo our condo page of this website.

With a brand new bathroom, new furniture, and colorful lighting features added, We hope our guests will come and enjoy it as much as we do!

For more about our Condo visit our CMB - Rm 207 @ Secrets page.

And Becoming Less Shy...

Bella: When we were preparing to publish our book Jay asked me if could use one of MY pictures on the cover. My honest reaction was to ask him "why?" Before entering the Lifestyle I never believed I was sexy. I still don't I see what Jay sees in me, or what other admirers say they see, but I have to admit I do like hearing that they see it!

So if I enjoy the attention, and Jay enjoys showing me off, and you enjoy looking at me, then why should I let my self-image get in the way of all that enjoyment? lol!

So we set up an OnlyFans page where I can continue to explore being my new more confident BAD-self. If you want to be part of my "revealing" journey, I hope you will join me there!